Best Friends Make Life Better!

Having a best friend makes life more enjoyable. Last week we touched on the 5 top health benefits of having a best friend. But what if you don’t have a best friend outside of your family?

First of all, that’s not all that uncommon. Did you know 1 out of 4 people don’t have a best friend – a confidant to share their hopes, dreams, fears and sorrows with?  And that number, according to a study published in the American Sociological Review, is growing. Surprisingly, despite emails, tweets and texting; it’s face-to-face contact that is most important. If you don’t have a best friend, there’s still hope (there’s always hope!). Here are 8 ways to find a friend:

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Linked Lives = Friendships

  1. Chat with people while you are out getting some sunshine and fresh air. Take the kids or pets for a walk, go to a park, etc. Everyone has a story. Be curious about others. People love to talk about themselves and you just may meet someone you have a lot in common with!
  2. Get in shape, join a gym or the local YMCA or take an aerobics class and get to know the other people there. You already have one thing in common…
  3. Make a break. Start a weekly or monthly lunch or coffee group with some people you are acquainted with, but don’t really know. You may be surprised!
  4. Go have some FUN! Don’t be so quick to turn down invitations. Sure, you’re tired or you don’t feel like doing things; but do it anyway. Your energy level will rise and you just may have fun.
  5. Do you know what your talents are? Did you have childhood dreams about singing onstage, or sewing beautiful clothes, or taking photographs, or whatever. Have you ever told yourself ‘someday, I want to do…’; well, there’s no time like the present. Carve time out, even if it’s just 30 minutes a week, to devote to doing something you love. Volunteer at hospital, church, animal shelter, museum, women’s shelter, senior center…offering them your special talents. By doing so you could meet some fascinating people.
  6. Have you ever thought I don’t make a difference? Well, you do. And one way to do that is to become involved with something you’re passionate about, whether it’s community events or politics or your kid’s schools. Join committees, be heard, make a difference.
  7. Let your spirit soar. Another great way to meet like-minded people is at a place of worship by not only attending regularly, but by getting involved on committees, in the choir, or even acting in church productions!
  8. Finally, another great way to meet kindred spirits is socializing. Check out www.meetups.com for groups in your community. There’s a wide variety to choose from…so be choosy, only join those that really perk your interest.

Have fun meeting and making new friends!!

 

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Benefits of Having a Best Friend

When I wrote the 2014 Beverly Hills International Book Award Winner, Linked Lives, I did so in honor of my best friend. For forty years we kept each other sane through the worst of times and celebrated the best of times. Without her in my life, I don’t think I would have made the choices I did or be the person I am today. So when I discovered one out of three people don’t have a best friend (family members don’t count), I thought about why that is and uncovered some very interesting research!

Did you know that having a true best friend (someone who doesn’t judge you, someone who listens to you, someone who loves you unconditionally) positively affects your health? It’s true! Studies from the Mayo Clinic, psychology professors and other reliable sources all agree, having a best friend improves our health.

Below are the top 5 reasons to have a best friend:

  1. SELF WORTH: Best friends make us feel like we belong and have a purpose for being
  2. MORALE BOOSTER: Best friends help us deal with traumas such as divorce, serious illness, job loss of the death of a loved one
  3. HAPPINESS: Best friends increase our happiness level, making our life better
  4. HEALTH: Best friends help reduce our stress which keeps us healthier
  5. HONESTY: Best friends tell it like it is

So, if you are lucky enough to have a best friend, call (texting or emailing doesn’t count) or jump in the car to visit with him/her, now! If you don’t have a best friend, then be sure to read next week’s blog giving 8 ways to find a friend!

 

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Linked Lives – A brilliant memoir about best friends, reminding all of us how special our true friends are. 5-Star Rating and 2014 International Book Award Winner.

Does technology drive you crazy?

Technology is great . . . when it works like it’s supposed to. But when it doesn’t, it can be infuriating!

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Last week, upon the announcement of receiving an international book award, several people told me they tried to order my book(s), but experienced trouble and their orders didn’t go through. If this happened to you, please let me know, so I can get the glitch fixed . . . and ease the technology frustrations! Thanks.