I ran across an interesting article yesterday evening. It was written awhile ago by an Australia woman who cared for people who were dying. Bronnie Ware wrote in her article, Top Five Regrets of the Dying, that when she asked her patients (who were sent home to die) about their regrets, one of the most common was:
“I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.” Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and then it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendship the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendship slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order, if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.”
Most of us send cute emails to our ‘friend’ list, but for those special friends, how often do we send a personal email, or even better, call them and hear their voice? I’ve always made a point of staying in touch with my friends by calling at least every few months. I don’t always reach them, but at least they know I’m thinking about them.
Sadly, my best friend passed away, suddenly and unexpectedly, just over a year ago. My book, Linked Lives, is a tribute to her life and our 40-year friendship. I wrote it originally for her children, but others who have read it, say they are reminded how precious their best friends are and call them after reading the book.
So, today, take 5 or 10 minutes out of your hectic day to pick up the phone and call your best friend. It’ll make both of you feel good.